Feel or Commit?

Dear Friends, I don’t care how you feel. Well, I do care about how you feel, but not as much as I care about what you’re committed to. We all want to feel competent, respected, and safe. But in order to learn, to do anything worthwhile, we have to threaten our own comfort.  It’s easy to avoid the culprits (circumstances, …

There are no lesser jobs

Dear Friends, Early in my career, because of Joe, I learned that every job matters. I led HR for the Supply Chain of a very large retail corporation. We had many distribution centers across the country, which were huge—so large that you could ride a bicycle through them, and some people did. When we recruited people for our distribution centers, …

The Path to Influence

Dear Friends, How do we best engage, lead, influence and connect with others? Oftentimes we believe we need to prove how smart we are. Or perhaps we have a different style, but same approach, we believe we need to convey technical data. Maybe we think we best influence and lead by working really hard as an example. From my view …

Say I

Dear Friends, I was teaching a training, and there we had a compelling conversation going on about personal responsibility that went something like this: Cool young man who works for us: “You went home and told your wife that she was right. You do put her down when you disagree with her.” Me, thinking I don’t have a wife, I …

Getting More from Less

Dear Friends, I have recently spent the better part of a few weekends moving things, boxing things, organizing things, cleaning things, washing things, folding things, sorting things, and sadly, buying more things to compartmentalize my things. I had thought I was more of a minimalist, but moving in and out of a house in less than a year has proven …

Here, and no more

Dear Friends, The Stoics, ancient Greek philosophers who thought deeply about how to live the best life, had a practice to help them (us) live better. So often, we’re afraid of certain things coming to pass that we suffer their occurrence even when they have never happened and, I suspect, our imaginations make them much worse than their actuality. The …

Now, at this very moment

Dear Friends, What do you do when the obstacle seems too intense, the goal too far away, the work entirely overwhelming—not to mention insurmountable? Often, to our detriment, the first thing we do is look at the entirety of the undertaking, the distance to the goal or the complexity of the process, and throw up our virtual hands and call …

We Are Not Nouns; We Are Verbs*

Dear Friends, Nouns are labels: race, gender, job, title, age. Verbs are actions, energy: that which we do, the words that we say. When we live as a verb, what we do, how we express ourselves, our energy, and our vibrancy is what matters and is our defining principle. In contrast, when we live or identify as a noun, we …

Express Your Power

Dear Friends, Just wishing, and hoping and trying….this could be the start of a really good song, a-wish’n, and a hope’n and a try’n; but not such a great style of communicating action or direction. Our power is in our action. We may want a plethora of things to happen, but simply waiting for them to occur does little to …

You Will Hire The Wrong Person

Dear Friends, As we select people to be in our lives, and although we strive to avoid it, we often pick the “wrong” person*. People appear utterly normal to us until we get to really know them, and then their normalness comes into serious question. On a parallel path, our chosen other (employee, significant other, etc.) also, at some point, …